Looking on the Bright Side of Life. When it comes to life it is important to be positive without being blind to life's problems and complications.
I know many people that have a hard time grasping this concept, they just insist (or just have a hard time) at not looking at the bright side of life. They seem to live with a chip on their shoulder and just want to find what is wrong with life.
Yes, there are those that experience depression whether because of life experiences or because of chemical imbalances of the body. That is not what I am talking about.
I'm talking about the people that their life quest comes off as though they expect to be offended or mistreated by another individual and they go through life snarky, miserable, and extremely pessimistic. They have this chip on their shoulder because they feel like life has handed them a band hand of cards on purpose and have been losing that game of poker for as long as they can remember.
Here is my message to you:
1.) Life is not out to get you. There is no conspiracy going on saying "I'm going to make _______ miserable today." I'm sorry stuff has happened to you, but just because this happened doesn't mean you have to hold on to that pain. You can always let it go. (Yes, I know this is hard. Heck, I have been to therapy).
2.) Stop waiting around for people to offend you. Stop looking for situations to be offended by. Don't you realize this that when you are doing this you are giving the other person power and you are not making yourself look any better. Instead, don't take offense, ignore them. They will learn in time. (Now if they are being physically violent and such, defend yourself. But if they call you names or say something that you don't agree with it, just ignore it. We all hear stuff we don't like, but not all of us makes a hugh stink out of it. Why are you?) Don't waste your time on them.
3.) Stop looking for what's wrong and messed up in life. Seriously, if you are hyper-focused on the messed up aspects of life, it's not going to help you stay positive. It isn't easy, I never said it was, but if you tend to look at what is wrong with life and what is messed up and all the other problems... you will be unhappy. Realize that, yes there are so many things wrong, but figure out what in life is right. What things are going well in your life?
To those that live to be unhappy with life and are upset, just to be upset......... Get over it, get over yourself. You are not the only that has had a lot of crap go on in your life. You are the only one that has a bad relationship with your family, has had a terrible boyfriend/ girlfriend/marriage that messed with your head or has been screwed over in one form or another. You are not the only one that has been through a lot. It's not the world's fault that instead of trying to live a positive life, you decide to be angry and unhappy with the world. Don't blame the entire world for all the bad that has happened to you And anytime someone does something you don't like you lash out because you think they want to hurt you personally, when they have no idea who you are.
You are not helping yourself by choosing to find what is wrong with life and being unhappy. You really aren't. Blaming the world for your problems and your past hurts isn't going to help either. Ghandi said, "Be the Change You Wish to See." By being a positive person and working on preventing what happened to you happen to someone else is a much more productive way of going about things. Be the role model. Put your experience to use. Treat others with kindess, write about it, talk about it, etc. BUT!!! That does not give you the right to get angry and nasty with those that might have a different point of view. You must allow the person to decided for themselves and remember we all have different experiences and points of views. Being hateful with others does not fix things.
Don't live life looking for what is wrong, live life trying to better yourself and those you know.
On a side note, when first writing this I immediately thought of Monty Python, so here is one of their songs.
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